10K Facilitators Share Their Stories.
“Hi and a huge chazak for this incredible organization.
My first idea of redting a shidduch came from one of my job colleagues. He asked me to find someone for his young brother. I tried out many times but it didn’t worked out.
A few weeks before the quarantine, the idea of the schidduch, came out to me. About three months later BH, they got engaged, two weeks ago. I thank Hashem a lot to give me this incredible opporunity to contribute to build new batim beyisroel!!
I heard about 10K a few weeks after my first idea the schidduch of RC and BL, I found this organization so great!!
I feel that the zchut of Elicheva and Ysroel helped a lot in the accomplishment of the schidduch.
Because, all schidduchims that I tried to redt before didn’t work out, and BH since I knew this organization, and since I mention them in my tefila before redting a schidduch, I feel that there is a siyata dichlaya meyouchedet!!
BH It’s the second successful schidduch that I redt this year and I feel that it’s a lot thanks to the zchut of Israel and Elicheva.
Zechutam yaguen aleinu vealkol ysroel, ken yrbou smachots beyisroel!!!
Now I would like to talk to you about the second schidduch I redt, It’s directly min Hachamayim.
I have a friend of mine who has a brother and she told me please do you have someone for him. The idea of his kala came out to me first, because they were in the same university so I told why not!!
Boruch Hashem the schidduch went successfully and they are getting married in a few months!!!
I think the achievement of this schidduch is very because of the zchut of Ysroel and Elicheva because in the past years, when I tried to make schidduchims, it didn’t worked out , and since I knew this organization I feel a siyata dichmaya meyouchedet”
July 5th, 2020
“My husband and I made the shidduch. We have always been on the lookout for shidduch ideas for my best friend, and then when my husband found out that his friend was dating, we decided to go for it! It was a bit complicated with covid because she’s from out of town but bH it all worked out and they recently got engaged! We are so excited for the out of town wedding in August!
Mazel tov BW and SB!!
I was in Elisheva’s grade in TAG my whole life, so I’m always trying to do things in her zechus. I’ve made suggestions before and logged them into 10K Batay Yisroel so I began receiving the emails, and when I read the stories about how average people just made shidduchim, my Husband and I decided that we had to try it too! IyH we hope to make many more!”
June 29th, 2020
“I have been making matches for 40 years and have accomplished only 6 but since the Tragedy of Elisheva and Yisroel happened I have been making matches in their memory but this match actually worked. This project was very thought out and a beautiful dedication in their memory. The only thing I have said from the beginning when the project was first thought of is “why did it need two beautiful people to lose their lives for people to start helping to make shidduchim“. It should be in everyone’s blood and mind to help singles find each other. The minute I meet a single I already start thinking who would he/she match to? Do we need a tragedy to think this way or is this the way every Jew should think about helping other people from the start. A middah that is must in every Jew.
We are friends with the Kaplans and never had the pleasure of meeting the Levins but our hearts and respect go out to both families for their loss and dedication for shidduchim. I compare it to a fire. Do you first need a house to burn down to first start being aware of fire safety rules? Fire safety rules should be on everyone’s mind all the time.”
June 15th, 2020
“What a zchus it is to be involved in making a shidduch happen. Logging in Shidduchim being redt to Batay Yisroel Leilui nishmas Yisroel and Elisheva, but to actually log in the engagement is a wonderful feeling! IyH many more continued simchas! Rabbi Levin and the whole project is an inspiration to anyone involved in making Shidduchim “
June 15th, 2020
“I have been so inspired by the daily inspiration, tips and halochos, ever since I have signed up with this wonderful initiative. The truth be told I have been suggesting shidduchim for about 10 years or so, yet over the last few years felt very burned out by the shidduch scene, and how parents and girls and boys deal with things. Since this is not my primary job I had taken a step back. Yet about a year ago a dear family member sent me a link to sign on to the whatsapp chat, and since then it has given much chizuk of the importance and need for everyone out there to get involved.
I am a born New Yorker yet have been living in eretz yisroel for the last 22 years….b’H. The shidduch scene for children of anglo parents that grew up in Eretz Yisroel could be very challenging. Many of them would like to see their offspring’s with an English speaker yet it is not always possible. I am a courageous person and if I feel a shidduch between the girl and boy are suitable I try my best to reason with the parents….that could be very tough at times.
This special shidduch is a wonderful girl with anglo parents, to a fantastic truly Israeli Sabra, yet when I redt it to the parents I told them it is very “left field” yet I truly felt the girl and boy suite each other. With much Siyata DiShmaya the shidduch hit off right away and they got engaged two weeks ago
I have written above, how the halochos, ideas, and beautiful chizuk gave me the push forward!!!”
June 1st, 2020
“So my sister and I are often on the phone talking about anything and everything. We have both tried in the past to make a shidduch but never got too far. We were talking about it and my sister told me how she is so inspired from this organization and she really wants to make a shidduch. She then redt a few shidduchim and actually one shidduch went out a few times. While this was going on, I was so excited for her as each date that she got a yes. But after the 5th date, it was over. It was so exciting for us that she actually got someone to go on a few dates! I wanted to do so as well! I redt this shidduch and got a yes from both sides. Oh I forgot to mention, that one our favorite parts are checking the website to so the numbers of first dates and engaged go up. So when my sister got a first date she was able to put it in and the number went up. We were so excited!! Then we did the same by my shidduch and hoped it will make it to the end. Well that’s the story. And it all ended well.
April 1st, 2020
“I have great news to share with you, the couple got engaged today!!! Redding shidduchim is something i always try to do but many times there is alot of effort that is not fruitful.
March 31st, 2020
שלום רב! סליחה שאני כותב בעברית, כך אני מעדיף… סיפור השידוך הוא כדלהלן: לפני כשנה, קרה אסון בקהילה שלי. אברך צעיר מאוד נפטר בפתאומיות מדום לב במוצאי פורים. לא היו לו ילדים. הוא לא השתכר, אלא עסק במצוות במשך רוב היום. זו היתה מכה קשה עבור כולנו בקהילה ובמשפחתו כמובן. אני נמצא בצוות השדכנים של הישיבה היקרה שלי (אני גר בישראל והישיבה נמצאת בישראל), ולפני כמה חודשים התקשר אלי חניך יקר שלי (הייתי מדריך שלו בתנועת הנוער כמה שנים קודם) והוא הזכיר לי שהוא רוצה שידוך, ונזכרתי באלמנה הצעירה, והצעתי לו, שכן היתה התאמה רבה ביניהם. הצדיק המתוק הזה הסכים להיפגש איתה, וב”ה בשעה טובה ומוצלחת, בסימן טוב ומזל טוב, לבניין עדי-עד, הם התחתנו ממש כמה ימים לפני ראש חודש ניסן!! אני כל כך שמח בשבילם! ברוך מציב גבול אלמנה ומשמח ציון בבניה!!! אכן כמו רבים בעולם היהודי, גם אני הזדעזעתי עד עומק הנשמה מהאסון הנורא שקרה לחתן והכלה היקרים, ישראל ואלישבע ז”ל (הי”ד?), ממש נשבר הלב מהאסון הזה. והנה לאחר זמן מה, בזמן שגלשתי באתר Yeshiva world nwes ראיתי את הפרסום החשוב של הרעיון הנפלא של 10,000 שידוכים. התרגשתי מהרעיון, ואני חושב שזה באמת רעיון נפלא, ואני שמח מאוד שה’ זיכה אותי להיות שותף בבניין בית בישראל, וביוזמה הנפלאה שלכם. שנזכה בקרוב לראות בגאולה, ובתחיית המתים, ובחתונה של ישראל ואלישבע. אני מחכה לחתונה הזו. אני בטוח שהיא תתקיים.
March 30th, 2020
“I was very inspired to red shidduchim I followed the 10K Batay Yisroel straight from the beginning when Rabbi Levin started it. I’ve checked the numbers on the website and read all the testimonials. I’ve logged quite many suggestions and logged a first date that my mother redt. I was at the gathering in Chynka and it gave me a push to continue trying. A few weeks ago I helped in a shidduch by hooking the boys parent up with a shaddchan who made his shidduch. BH this passed week I made my very first shidduch and it was actually for my own son. I had redt a boy for the girl but nothing came of it. Being that I had her resume from the first shidduch I redt for her, I looked it over and thought maybe she could be for my son. I actually tried helping someone else out and ended up helping myself and my family in the process! Thank you Rabbi Levin for pushing and inspiring so many people to redt shiduchim. May it be a z’chus for you and your family and the Kaplan family and an Aliyas Nishama for Yisroel and Elisheva.”
March 25th, 2020
“The boy is my nephew and the girl is my daughter’s friend. Whenever I redt shidduchim, I always have Yisroel and Elisheva in mind! I thought of the shidduch 7 months ago. When I spoke to the parents they both told me that since one lives in Eretz and one lives in America as long as no one is coming in lets hold off. Well 7 months later the boy was coming into america and the boys mother reminded about my shidduch. So I went ahead and redt it to both sides again what amazes me the most was that no one that I mentioned it to thought it made sense but i kept on thinking if Hashem put it in my head and they are both really nice people why shouldn’t I try. And thank you Hashem for making this wonderful shidduch happen. Also the way I presented it to the girls mother when she asked me why I think its a good idea and I said” I could just see them together “ and the mother went with the shidduch because I said that. So you see the right words Hashem put in my mouth worked”
February 29th, 2020
“Redting shidduchim has always been my hobby when i was single but i never got anywhere. When i recently got married i was excited to broaden my contacts. My Chosson had a good friend Osher, (Riverdale, 24 ) who he thought would be a good idea for my friend Chavi (Lakewood, 25). We set them up when we were engaged, they went out for the first time the night after our wedding and now 6 weeks later they are BH happily engaged. Its amazing how Batay Yisroel keep an awareness and reminder to everyone that anyone can be a shadchan and don’t give up since you never know!? I always see the 10K adds and check the website and log my suggestions and reading others stories kept me inspired to keep trying.”
Leeba R. Tillim
February 15th, 2020
“The couple is older and it was done completly Lshaim Shamyim as a zchuis for the young couple and for their families!!! Being totally honest I got engaged the same time as yisroel and elisheva Erev Pesach 2018. I got married in the summer 2018 and only heard about the 10K a few weeks ago, I was so inspired and moved that i went on a shidduch redting rampage and BH an older couple (30) are getting engaged TONIGHT!!!!! Thank you for creating such a uniting organization that drives people to look past themselves and do something about it!!!”
February 14th, 2020
“I myself am actually a girl “in the parsha”, which would probably have made me even more hesitant to suggest something than the typical person, but the ads were everywhere and I realized that I only had what to gain. This was not the first suggestion I tried because of the 10kBY initiative, and quite a few of the shidduchim I pushed did date a number of times but nothing came of any of them. I actually brought up the idea at my shabbos table and things went wild from there… It actually was not smooth sailing for much of the ordeal and there was plenty of stress for everyone involved. So many times over the past few weeks I was so tempted to just give up and never redt another shidduch, but Baruch Hashem it worked out and I am so grateful for the zchus… 10kBY is for sure a huge part of that!! Thank You!!!”
January 30th, 2020
“I’ve been redting many shidduchim as a zchus for Yisroel and Elisheva a”h and finally baruch Hashem I made my first one!! I kept on redting even though most of them did not go anywhere-always with the hope that this time something would happen and it did baruch Hashem!!
I can definitely tell you about how the project inspired me. Number 1 I would say that I am a single girl so normally I would think that I don’t stand a chance to make a shidduch. I think this project revolutionized the idea that anyone and everyone is capable of making a shidduch-they just need the courage to redt it!! It is becoming more and more popular for girls to redt shidduchim and I see it over and over again that many are zoche to actually make shidduchim! (two of my single friends made shidduchim as well) Without this project I don’t think we would think it is possible!!
January 22nd, 2020
“It’s a big zechus for me to be part of the 10K family! I was the shadchan for my 34 year old neice (a divorcee) to an alman!
You never give up! You are keeping Yisroel and Elisheva’s memory alive!”
January 21st, 2020
January 8th, 2020
January 2nd, 2020
“I had a 10K Shidduch Meeting in my house and after each girl presented the boys and girls they had I encouraged my friend to present herself, she did and a girl sitting at the table thought my friend would be a great idea for her brother. The girl suggested it and last week my friend and that girls brother got engaged!!
After reading the amazing emails and attending the 10K Event I was inspired to organize a shidduch meeting in my home in memory of Yisroel & Elisheva, it was so succesful and people were begging me to organize more “
December 23th, 2019
“This is a shidduch I have thought of off and on for the past 5 years – a second marriage for both with children on both sides. I was in Brooklyn when the accident happened – actually down the block by my brother Maimon Elbaz and I wanted to do something and was inspired in its own right but also to add to this cause. They are getting married Zos Chanuka which only adds to the many miracles Hashem makes in bringing people together ! It is very special to be a partner in setting up another Jewish home in Israel. “
December 4th, 2019
“I suggested someone I went out with to someone I (sort of:) knew. I didn’t think anything would come of it. However, apparently a lot of people thought of the idea but no one went ahead with it. Hashem chose me to be the shalaich and B”H they got engaged last week. May everything that comes out of their future home be a zechus for the neshamos of Yisroel and Elisheva Basya!
I am constantly seeing ads with peoples feedback on this initiative. The whole culture it has created definitely impacted my suggestion. Being in shidduchim I am often wary of “random suggestions”. However this initiative and my recent shidduch changed my perspective a little bit. A few days after they got engaged I saw an add introducing 10K first dates. This motivated me to suggest another shidduch with someone else I went out with. I was a little shy but I told myself I am doing this for their zechus! All I had to do was suggest it to someone (she thought it was a brilliant idea) and let a professional take it from there! We will see what happens….. May we hear of many simchas!”
December 5th, 2019
“I redt my brother in law to a girl I know from my hometown 🙂
Just cuz you don’t know if it will work doesn’t mean you shouldn’t redt it!
The whole idea of trying something when it comes up instead of disregarding it is something I’ve taken from the 10k initiative”
December 6th, 2019
“I’ve been doing shidduchim for a number of years already. I did mention at the onset of this organization that I’m going to be doing it for the couple AH as well B’H. There was a great deal of Siyata DShmaya in how I met the girl and the boy that I redt and are now engaged!.”
December 6th, 2019
“As a young married woman, seeing the ads for their zechus, I always wanted to be a part but was never able to come up with any ideas. Then one day I redd a shidduch to a friend, for a week I put all energy into it and then the boy’s mother asked if I mind if she uses a professional shadchan. I reluctantly said yes and when I thought it through I realized it was the zechus of hopefully bringing two people together that I wanted and nothing more. 2 months later they are now engaged, the girls side appreciates the time I put in very much but from the boys side I got “oh you only did 1 small phone call you weren’t really the main shadchan“. If only she knew. I smiled at her happily and I am taking the zechus for Khal yisroel. Let this bring mashiach closer.”
December 1st, 2019
“I actually made 4 shidduchim this year BH with the help of Hashem. I’ve been involved in shidduchim for a few years now, when this unfortunate tragedy happened and I heard Rabbi Levin say: let’s make 10,000 shidduchim together it kept me motivated to continue this holy work.”
November 17th, 2019
“A friend thought if the idea for her brother-in-law and asked me to be the go-between. I was happy to join in the process and utilize my skills to help. This is my third shidduch in the boys family Baruch HaShem and the girl is from Milwaukee.
10k Batay Yisroel is always an inspiration for me. Whenever I feel drained from shidduchim I am reminded of this incredible initiative and my motivation is revived.
I know Hashem knows my efforts but this initiative is a concrete example of how our efforts in shidduchim “count.” “
November 13th, 2019
“I had filled out on your website a few months ago that I set up my friend. BH now they are engaged!! Kol hakavod for all the work that you do! “
R.T. November 13th, 2019
“Lisa Elephant and I made the shidduch. We did it together in zchus of Yisroel and Elisheva. Thank you:) “
November 13th, 2019
“Through the suggestion of a boy I have been setting up, Gavi came to meet me . Sarah’s brother came to meet me and asked if his sister could come along as well that’s when I met Sara. And the rest is history ! They went out since August and got engaged today BH !!amazing feeling to be the shaliach !
I was involved in doing shidduchim the past several years, but since this site was created I took it to another level -hearing Rabbi Levin’s request at the levaya followed by several requests to continue the Shidduch initiative lzecher nishmatam, I realized there is so much that can really be done by each and everyone of us. I work daily on meeting with people and trying to redt Shidduchim and BH it paid off today! A couple got engaged from me meeting two random people !!!
I’ve been redting shidduchim the past several years . However since I heard Rabbi Levin and Joel Kaplan speak about the initiative I took redting shidduchim to another level. A day hardly goes by where I don’t spend a set amount of time, either meeting people, sending a resume to a boy, following up on a call etc. my efforts should be lzcecher Yisroel and Elisheva ah.
Mazel Tov “
October 7th, 2019
“I always try to redt shidduchim, but as we know, it’s a very difficult process. The story of Elisheva and Yisroel broke my heart, but seeing Mr. Levin take a tragedy and make it into something so positive really spoke to me and I decided that all of my suggestions would be liluy nishmatam.
October 5th, 2019
“I attend a Shidduch group called Aleinu L’shadaich based in Five Towns. I was frustrated because I had a lot of names but they meant very little to me because I didn’t know them. I felt like I was shooting darts. I decided to make a singles BBQ in my house on July fourth. 10 girls -10 guys- very chilled. My daughter and her friend were very helpful. We consulted with shadchannim who had done this and with singles to hear what they wanted. It was easy getting the girls, the guys were a bit harder but with S”D we had 13 guys and 11 girls. They were likeminded, similar hashkafas, and all were helpful and polite. It was amazing and they all had a wonderful time. After the BBQ I got in touch with each of them. I had two couples that wanted to go out and I logged them into 10K Batay Yisroel to give added zchusim all around. One couple didn’t work out and the other- my daughter’s friend who was so helpful, dated all summer -a guy that my daughter had previously dated and had convinced him to come to the BBQ. I attended the trial having the inside info that they were getting engaged. When I read that Rabbi Levin said that he checked the website during the trial to see if there were engagements- I was happy to send him the message that one was already being planned. This experience has taught me that not everyone loves the “Shadchan” experience, but there are other ways to meet and date. We had a perfectly kosher singles event with wonderful frum people who learn and grow and daven. They are also capable of making shidduchim by thinking of each other and setting each other up with family, friends, or other people they dated. It was a wonderful experience and B”H had a wonderful outcome.
Reading the ads and emails from the Kaplan’s and Levin families was very inspirational and it gave me the added push to just do it. Making the BBQ was a joint effort. We had people who recommended singles, people who offered to bring food, and all of the singles helped prepare and clean up. It was a great feeling to see how happy everyone was after an enjoyable evening. Everyone’s involvement should be a zchus for an aliya of Yisroel and Elisheva’s neshamos. “
September 26, 2019
“BH I just had the zechus of completing my first shidduch! I’m only 21 years old but I know the difficulty of being in shidduchim. 10k had really inspired me and I’m constantly redting shidduchim because of it. I thought of a great idea for my close friend from seminary’s brother a while ago but he wasn’t in shidduchim yet. As soon as I heard he was starting I asked my mother to please redt my close friend from high school to the boy and knew that no matter what I have nothing to lose. They B”H got engaged tonight!! Thanks to 10k for giving me that much needed push and BH see the fruits of my labor.
It helped show me that you don’t need to be a professional Shadchan to make a shidduch. No matter what people are always happy to hear that you are thinking of them in these very trying times. B”H I was zoche to make a shidduch and will b’ezras Hashem continue to help in any way I can! “
September 25, 2019
“10K Batay Yisroel always remains an inspiration to me. May my continued efforts in shidduchim be a zechus for the precious souls that were lost. Ksiva vChasima Tovah! “
September 24, 2019
“BH this is the 3rd shidduch I made since the 10k initiative began. I hope to be able to keep making more and more shidduchim. “
September 18, 2019
“At the end of last year I set up two friends, in their 30s, and they just got married at the beginning of the summer. I knew them both from different places, the guy from high school and the girl more recently and it just came to me. The girl was from LA but living in NY at the time and the guy was from LA, lived in NY and then moved back to LA, so their paths kept crossing and they never met. When they finally went out they hit it off and realized they had a lot of mutual friends. At the vort, tons of people said “why didn’t I think of this sooner.” Everyone thanked me but I said it was all Hashem.
The chosson’s mother passed away when we were in high school and the kallah’s brother passed away many years ago as well, their presence was felt very strongly at the wedding and throughout the whole process.
Keep pushing, checking in, and let Hashem do the rest.
September 12, 2019
“I want to tell you that 10K is behind this shidduch. I was in shidduchim when the tragedy happened. After seeing this wonderful initiative, I made it a priority to think of other friends every time I dated someone that did not end up being for me. Once you start thinking – you eventually get good at it, its like practicing playing an instrument. Over time you get better and more on point. In the past year me and my family must have thought of 75 – 100 ideas between family friends, people I dated, people my friends dated etc.. This shidduch is a friend from yeshiva to a girl I dated. I saw the yad H’ through and through. I kept pushing my friend every few weeks. It just wouldn’t leave my head what a good idea this shidduch could be. I kept thinking of the 10k initiative and pushed myself to remind my friend every few weeks. They finally went out and bh just got engaged!! Additionally I had two other friends date girls over ten times because of ideas I thought of lzchus Yisroel and Elisheva ah. This is a beautiful initiative to help in the biggest form of chesed possible lzchus Yisroel and Elisheva! Let’s make many more shidduchim lzchus! Lets continue to change lives! Simchas! May these words bring a level of nechama. No doubt this shidduch came about through their teffilos in shamayim for klal yisroel.
This project was the motivation and driving force. I made redting a shidduchim my priority because of this project. Someone once approached the Lubavitcher Rebbe broken and in tears and begged the Rebbe to bring Mashiach with his teffilos. The Rebbe responded strongly over and over that only everyone together can do that not him alone. Helping marry off klal yisroels singles can also only happen with everyone together doing their part! Not just ten main shadchanim. Thank you 10k! Keep raising the bar and spreading this special project”
August 14, 2019
” I made a shidduch this past week and I can definitely say that the 10K Batay Yisroel campaign played a big role in it. The kallah is a yesomah so it is such a big simcha. I was inspired by the campaign that encouraged everyone to redt shidduchim and it was on my mind to try to a redt a shidduch also.!
August 8, 2019
” My friends daughter Racheli made aliyah by herself. She is very close bh to her family, and at the age of 21 is quite brave. Understandably so, her parents were concerned about her finding a proper shidduch. I had her in mind, and I participate in Ezer Knegdos data base, and saw Oren who is from Australia and moved to EY where his father is originally from. The resumes looked similar in what they were searching for, and so i gave it a try! Bh it worked! I feel there was a special siyata dishmaya when I registered on your site leilu nishmas Yisroel and Elisheva.! Tizku lmitzvos! You motivate us to try our hand at shidduchim!
I always try my best to be involved in shidduchim, they dont come easily! When I heard about this beautiful idea as a zechus for Yirsorel and Elisheva A H I wanted to be a part of it !!! I havent made a shidduch in a few years and when I registered this couple I had a feeling we might hear a Mazel Tov I feel this to be a special project the has siyata dishmaya!
July 28th, 2019
This shidduch was made between my cousin and a Bochur I dated. My father and I both thought of it and contacted the shadchan who had redt it to me. Although the shidduch seemed so striking I normally would’ve had a lot of hesitations about suggesting it. With the motivation promoted by 10K of redting shidduchim Leilu nishmas Yisroel and Elisheva I was able to make the move and ignore the hesitations.
And I am so grateful I did!
This is the best feeling ever!!!
May Klal Yisroel continue to share in many many more simchos!!!
“There are times when I get discouraged. So much time is spent calling & trying to set up Shidduchim & getting absolutely nowhere. I keep reminding myself that I’ve got to continue thinking & redting & if nothing comes of it, then it’s just isn’t bashert.
Watching & listening to the powerful speeches from the 10K Event gave me the push that I needed to keep trying
& it was the next shidduch that I suggested that got engaged last night, BH!!!”
June 27th, 2019
“My chosson had a good friend who needed a shidduch and I had a friend who needed a shidduch as well. We redt it AND baruch Hashem 6 weeks later they got engaged!!! It should be a zchus for the nishamos.
10k definitely encouraged me to suggest this Shidduch. When u see an ad that says that someone else made a Shidduch it gives the encouragement that anyone can and should redt Shidduchim.
June 20th, 2019
“I am a 19 year old girl and a friend of mine was telling me about a boy she knew that needed a shidduch. I have a different friend that fit the description and we both thought it was a good idea. We got someone to redt it for us. They went our about 10 times and Baruch Hashem got engaged 🙂
I always see your ads in the paper and they inspire to redt shidduchim. I try to think of ideas and B”H this was a successful shidduch!! Thank you for a beautiful organization! May it be a z’chus for your children’s neshamos.”
May 28th, 2019
“So I can definitely say that the advertising and drip drip message of 10k that anyone can suggest a shidduch made an impact on me. So many times I’ve had ideas but always felt that — c’mon, do i really know what I’m talking about etc etc.– This time, with the empowerment from 10k that anyone can do it – you don’t have to be a professional experienced shadchan, I picked up the phone and just suggested… one phone call lead to another.. research, resumes, financial chat, dor yeshorim and at each stage I was telling myself that its ok…you don’t have to be a professional to navigate this phonecall.. next was dating venues, coaching him… coaching her… and yes, it took hours of time and lots of koach but suddenly there was a mazel tov! Its a tremendous feeling to have played a hand as the shaliach of Hashem in setting up a new home in Klal Yisroel… 10k’s message and empowerment is invaluable! It should be a zechus for the families and an aliyah for their neshamos. “
May 23rd, 2019
“When family friends are better than professional shadchanim:
Not everyone has a picture perfect life, and it is often those individuals who have been through things and struggled, who end up making the best spouses. And yet it is ironic how those individuals who met their life’s challenges with grit and determination, and really built themselves in to solid and sensitive ovdei Hashem, are often stigmatized by our community- especially when it comes to shidduchim.
They need our help! I know it isn’t fair but professional shadchanim often have no choice but to match up people based on their stories. Instead of thinking about who would make a fitting mate for the individual carrying the stigma of a less than perfect family, a shadchan will often look for someone who will be willing to consider someone with a story. And so many talented, capable, refined and successful singles will be labeled second rate and suggested to people who are not of the same caliber, but who carry the burden of a similar story. And that’s where family and friends come in. We see our friends as wonderful people instead of defining them by the stigmas they carry. Therefore we can often do a better job of redting our friends shidduchim.
I have a friend who had a very special daughter in the parsha, and she called me to ask about an eligible boy in my city. But that boy wasn’t frum enough for my friend’s daughter. So I tried to think of someone who is frum enough, and serious enough about his learning for this girl, and the face of another boy in my city flashed through my mind. I thought it was a good idea because both the girl and boy have so much simchas hachayim, and they share the same values. And then I realized that they even had complimenting stories. So I decided to redt it.
Both the girl’s mother and the boy’s mother liked what they heard. And when they asked for the name they both said the same thing. “Oh, a shaddchan redt this already, but I said no.” One side had thought that the other side’s story was too intimidating, and the other side had thought that the hashkafos weren’t compatible. But when they both realized that I knew the other side personally they agreed to look into the shidduch. They both trusted me because I was a family friend, and not a professional shadchan. And now we have a very happy chassan and kallah who were able to find each other only because their shidduch was handled by a friend.
I’ve seen your ads a few times and was inspired that I could just make suggestions, and keeping making them even if nothing I had ever suggested had worked before. A few months after seeing your ads I made my suggestion even without thinking about your organization. I just did it without looking back!
May 22nd, 2019
“I always felt very connected to this beautiful project, and hoped to one day redd a shidduch that will get added to the 10k count. I am the chosson’s sister and I knew about the girl through a mutual friend. After giving it much thought, and seeing ads in the Mishpacha, I felt I had a responsibility to at least redd it, Baruch Hashem, the shidduch succeeded beyond the getting redd stage and the first date, and they are now happily engaged! I am very excited to share the news with the 10K family, as it has definitely been a push for me to actually redd the shidduch. It should be a zchus for their heilige neshamos, and may they be a meilitz yosher for the new couple and gantz klal yisroel, IYH. Thank you for such a wonderful initiative.”
May 21st, 2019
“A friend called me one night to ask me about a girl who had been redt to her brother. As we spoke it seemed it wasnt a great match. Since getting married I’ve always tried thinking of shidduchim so I asked my friend what her brother was looking for.
A few weeks later I was by my in-laws for shabbos and my mother-in-law asked my husband if he had any friends for a neighbor’s daughter. She told us what she was looking for and for some reason my friend’s brother popped into my head. Of course I forgot about it after shabbos but a few weeks later it randomly popped into my head. I called my friend. Then called my mother-in-law’s neighbor. And a few weeks later (the night after the 10K event!) I attended their l’chaim!!
I have been married for just under 3 years now. Ever since I got engaged my husband and I have been trying to match up our friends. I have had so many ideas yet none had ever gotten farther than sending one side a resume. People talk about losing interest or feeling discouraged or uncomfortable, but the way I see it is I BH got married and it’s the most wonderful thing. How can I not try to give that brocha to others? Especially my own friends! Its not personal when someone says no to my ideas; I know I’m not good at this. But its fun to try! And here, such a random pair, and it worked! The feeling you get after seeing the smile and hearing that thank you from a chosson and kallah makes the entire process worth trying to replicate over and over. Walking into a l’chaim and being introduced to everyone as “this is the shadchan!!” is really the best feeling in the world
I recently got involved in 10k and helped work on the big event we just had. Being a part of this amazing organization while pursuing a shidduch was so encouraging and exciting! Telling everyone I worked with behind the scenes at 10k that I just added to the first date log, or now the shidduch log, was an amazing feeling. It is a group of wonderful, dedicated individuals who just want to help klal yisroel grow.”
May 20th, 2019
“I met one through my chessed girl in Israel (interestingly enough) and the other one is close to my relatives and thought of the shidduch in passing and mentioned it so I can add one shidduch to this program. I think this is marvelous!
May 5th, 2019
“I am a single girl almost a year back from seminary. My first cousin’s husband had a single brother in shidduchim. I really didn’t know much about him at all- never laid eyes on him, didn’t know which yeshivos he went to, his personality, etc. I just knew that he was similar to his brother who is married to my cousin. One night I was in the car with a friend schmoozing about shidduchim, and we were saying how we need to think of someone for this boy- she knew him also because they are distant family friends. Suddenly, I said, how about this girl we both know? She said, “that’s a really good idea!!” She encouraged me that it really was a good idea, so I asked my friend to send me her resume, and I called up my cousin and suggested the shidduch. The rest is history! They are so happy!
I am constantly seeing the ads promoting 10K Batay Yisroel, so I think making shidduchim just became more of a subconscious focus in my mind. I definitely feel like this program had a part in encouraging me to try to think of shidduchim and to actually suggest them.”
May 4th, 2019
“Over the years I have redt shidduchim from time to time. Since this initiative started, I was so inspired that I set up so many people just for Yisroel and Elisheva’s z’chus. So much so, that even my children have gotten involved. My 17 year old daughter was talking to a friend of hers who was describing her brother and my daughter thought that he sounded like a good for her first cousin (my niece). I spoke with the mother of the boy and then served as the go-between and B”H they just got engaged!
March 24th, 2019
“I always have Yisroel and Elisheva in mind and (almost) always, in this case I did, put in logo when I send resumes.
April 3rd, 2019
“I was sitting at a wedding of a close friend. I overheard another friend talking about her single brother, so I asked her to tell me about him. She told me all about him, and I told her that I would find her someone for him because I know tonz of girls that would be a good fit. I tried to think of a few girls but none seemed like they would work. So I called up another friend who is involved in shidduchim and I told her all about my friend’s brother. She said that she has an idea. I told her to send me her resume and I forwarded it to the boy’s side. They were very happy with what they saw! They said yes, and the girl’s mother called me to ask me about the boy that I redd her daughter to. I told her that I don’t really know the boy and I don’t really know her daughter, but I know the boy’s sister and his family, and they are amazing. She found out more information and they said yes too! They then gave it over to a professional shadchan and just last night I got the call that they are getting engaged! Mazel Tov!
This shidduch was my first shidduch ever that I attempted! I was inspired from reading all of the stories on this beautiful website and I decided that I really want to try to make a shidduch, or at least redd one. I was so excited to do it in the zechus of 10K Batay Yisroel! I know am super inspired to try to redd as many shidduchim as I could, especially since I saw such siyata dishmaya with this one.
May the zechusim keep on pouring in!
April 15th, 2019
“Some years ago I made 5 shidduchim in about 2 years time. Just last week my sixth and last shidduch just made a bar mitzvah for their oldest child and I attended with great joy and had such nachas. Once you make one shidduch it is in your blood and you just keep trying. In the beginning I was trying to redt shidduchim all the time but eventually I became very disillusioned and frustrated because the parties just didn’t respond at all. It’s okay to say ” we looked into it but it’s not for us”. No is also an answer. But no responses at all made me give up and I stopped redting. But when I heard Rabbi Shaya Levin ( who is a dear family friend of ours) speak about 10K Batay Yisroel, I decided to put aside all my disappointments and frustrations and started redting shidduchim again as a zechus for Yisroel and Elisheva a”h. And that is how this shidduch came to be, all with the help of Hashem of course.!”
April 2nd, 2019
“An engagement came about because of one of our 10K Batay Yisroel Group meetings in my home!”
April 1st, 2019
“I am privileged to be logging a second engagement on this forum. A relative of mine was visiting the States and I reached out to an acquantince who I have been previously in contact regarding shidduchim if she had any ideas for him. She mentioned she did not have ideas for him here, but she did have a friend back in Israel which can be applicable. For no apparent reason, the two never ended up going out, but a few months later while looking through old messages, I came across the girls information and thought of another relative of mine which seemed to be a good fit. B”H they just got engaged!
As written in my initial post, I am a single 21 year old girl and this initiative inspired me to get involved in shidduchim. I found that it all came down to NETWORKING and keeping your friends/neighbors/relatives etc. in mind. Many doors can be opened by casually gearing the conversation towards shidduchim. I would sit by a wedding and mention someone I know looking for shidduch to the person sitting next to me and suddenly people at the table would pitch in about who they knew in the “market”. These conversations are often time very productive and you never know where it may lead. It is my sincerest hope that we can each apply this initiative to our daily lives and may it be a continued Aliyah Neshama for Yisroel and Elisheva.”
March 31st, 2019
“When I heard about this program I was extremely inspired by it. I really wanted to make a shidduch as a z’chus for Yisrael and Elisheva. I am a regular single 21 year old girl who never made a shidduch before. About 2 months after hearing about this program, my friend and I decided we were going to look for a shidduch for a boy in my neighborhood. We flipped through our high school yearbook and within 5 minutes we had found the perfect girl for him. The only problem was I never had much to do with her in school and rarely saw her after. A few weeks later I “happened” to see her at a wedding. I was scared and felt shy but I took the plunge. I told the girl that I have a boy in my neighborhood who I thought was good for her. We exchanged email addresses and said we would be in touch about this shidduch.
Long story short, every time one side was available the other side was busy. Sporadically, I would call either the boy or girls side to see if they were available. 5 months after I initially mentioned it, on Chanukah, I decided I would give it one more shot. After calling both sides, I found out they were both available and interested. After getting a yes from both sides, I asked my mother to be the official shadchan and deal with the back and forth.
Last week, THE COUPLE GOT ENGAGED!!! They are over the moon and keep thanking my friend and I for pursuing the idea. I know it was all siyata diShmaya and it was the inspiration that I got from Yisrael and Elisheva that enabled me to redt this shiduch, thereby adding another engagement to the 10K program.”
March 22nd, 2019
“Let me just start by saying that I’m Not a Shadchan. This is my first shidduch & B”H they’re engaged.
March 20th, 2019
“I met the girl getting out of my regular carpool from the school I teach in and she attends in Manhattan. It was our first time traveling together; I told her I help people with shidduchim and to send me her resume. Subsequently, she came to see me in person, I then asked my brother a Rosh Yehiva for a suggestion for this special young lady and he recommended one of his former Talmidim and Baruch Hashem tonight is the Lechaim.
I registered the couple the suggestion and the first date and had in mind it should be a zechus for Yisoel and Elisheva A”H.”
March 3rd, 2019
“I B”H am active in shidduchim and whenever I come to Chicago my daughter asks me to meet girls in shidduchim.
A woman came over to my daughter’s house to help out and said I looked very familiar. I did not recognize her but believe it or not we figured out that I was her teacher 35 years ago. Later she mentioned she had a son in shidduchim, that night I met 12 girls, and thought they all sounded good for her son.
My daughter suggested I check with someone who knows him
and that person said none of these girls were compatible with him. At that point I decided to meet the son in person, so I asked him to come 8:00 the following night after the Vach Nacht. My daughter then said one more girl who couldn’t make the night before really still wanted to come.
It was the night before the bris B”H and hectic, but my daughter urged me to meet her as well at 8:30.
The boy came 8:15, and made a wonderful impression, then while I was still talking to the boy, the girl and her mother came. I told them to wait and finished up with the boy and walked him out right
in front of the girl and her mother. Then I met with the girl and saw open Hashgacha Pratis that she
was perfect for this boy. I immediately set up the date and B”H tonight was the LChaim, to my student’s
son from 35 years ago.
February 20th, 2019
“Rivka has been an anchor in our family. She loves babies and children and basically came over every day to help me when my kids were young and continued the visits as they grew up. She is someone I can count on for a last minute errand or favor.
February 20th, 2019
“I was pushing this idea for some time and he kept putting me off. (For understandable personal reasons.)
When I heard about the 10k initiative I became more aggressive (!!?) in my tactics. He finally agreed to date her and the rest is history. They are engaged!
May it be a z’chus for Yisroel and Elisheva.
February 9th 2019
“Ever Since 10K Batay Yisroel Started I have taken working on shidduchim very seriously.
January 27th, 2019
“I am a teacher at a Kirov girls high school and my husband works with Kiruv with college students . Many times we have his guys that he teaches come over for Shabbos and there was one boy there whom I happened to even know growing up since he was friends with my younger cousin. He kept asking me if I had any good girl for him since I teach at a high school and have many graduates . I kept that thought in mind and one day randomly a thought came to mind of a graduate whom I thought was a good girl and he asked for a good girl so why not give it a shot . I offered it to him and he accepted and so did she . lo and behold a few months later they’re engaged !!! But WAIT the story gets better ! This boy has an older brother who was single and so when he became serious with my student she had an idea for his older brother to go out with one of her friends who also happened to be one of my students …. long story short – 2 brothers got engaged within 3 days !!!! If I never suggested my shidduch idea which actually worked out (I absolutely had no thought even of it getting anywhere but thought hey you never know ) then the 2nd idea of the shidduch for the older brother coming through my shidduch idea would have also have to be delayed and come through a different source !! You never know ! Just give it a try and somehow you can even merit to be somehow involved in more than one shidduch through a simple suggestion !
It helped me make a suggestion although I didn’t think it would actually get anywhere but hey why not give it a shot anyways and it got 2 shidduchim in Klal Yisrael and now 2 brothers on the way to getting married Baruch HaShem !!!
10K Batay Yisroel inspired me to think a bit harder of what could make sense even if it took a few tries to figure it out and also to make the suggestion although I wasn’t sure it would even get to the first date but to make the offer regardless and let them decide ! And in the end it resulted in a double shidduch bH!”
January 26th, 2019
“I was in contact with you a couple of weeks ago about a shidduch that my wife and I made. At that vort, my wife thought of a cousin of the kallah for my friend and baruch Hashem they got engaged today.
As I mentioned to you in the past, its not easy trying to redt friends and its alot of work. But we felt that as a zchus for the the Kaplan/Levin families we should push ourselves the extra mile and baruch Hashem we are celebrating our second shidduch in a row! Tizku lmitzvos!”
January 15th, 2019
“This is actually the first shidduch suggestion that I logged on the 10K Batay Yisroel site.
This shidduch is a long story with so many layers of siyata d’shmay that it would take too long to write about it all.
I just learned one more piece. The Kallah and her mother went to Eretz Yisroel for a visit that had been planned before the shidduch began. They went to the bais hakvaros to daven at the kever of a friend that had passed away a few years prior. The taxi dropped them off and when they got out they found themselves standing at the kever of Yisroel Levin a”h. The mother spent some time davening at his kever before she went up to the kever of her friend.
Surely Yisroel Levin a”h was looking out for shidduch #31.
May this shidduch serve as an Aliyah for his Neshama.”
January 13th, 2019
January 13th, 2019
“The fact that parents can turn tragedy into chesed is tremendous. Although I’ve redt shidduchim before, 10k keeps me going.
I heard about the boy two years ago and the girl’s father recently had been asking for ideas.. Hashem decided that it was the right one and B”H… they are engaged!
I am inspired by the 10K project! Keep up your great work!
January 7th, 2019
“A few weeks ago, I had written on the 10K Batay Yisroel feedback forum stating how this initiative inspired me to go beyond my comfort zone to network.
At the time, I mentioned 3 shidduchim which were in the preliminary stages. I now have an update of how each panned out. One suggestion never went on a date (yet!), another never made it past the first date and the third just got engaged on Thursday!
On Chol Hamoed Sukkot, I was sitting with my 16 year old brother and decided to broach the subject of shidduchim (thanks to this initiative!). I asked him to tell me about all the guys he knows which are of eligible age. The description of his dorm counselor seemed to match up with a good friend of mine and I decided to redt the shidduch. It took a bit of time to actually get them to go out due to various circumstances, but now the rest is history:)
As I initially stated in the feedback forum, this initiative gave me the extra “push” to network. Sometimes all you need is to pick up the phone, approach someone you are not acquainted with, or just start a dialogue. This can lead to life changing results.
At first, I feared some may be insulted if I was off base with my suggestion, but I find that most people are grateful that you are thinking of them.
Although this is the first suggestion which led to an engagement, I hope it will be the first of many and should be an Aliyah Neshama for both Elisheva and Yisroel!”
“My close family friend just got engaged to my second cousin. The chosson’s mother would call me up for information about girls so I realized what type she was looking for. I thought my friend would be a good idea so I told her all about my friend and then my mother got involved and officialy redt it. Baruch Hashem, their engaged!!
My friend got me into it because she was telling me how important it is and how she tried to redt shidduchim and put it on 10K batay yisroel. I got inspired by 10K to redt shidduchim in general and was on the lookout for it so it gave me the push to redt this shidduch.”
“My daughter got engaged around the time of the tragic accident. After her engagement and marriage BH, I felt the desire to try to help others. Thus far I’ve gone out of my comfort zone and redt a number of shidduchim. One couple got engaged, the girl is a neighbor of mine ( and a relative by marriage to one of the Kaplan sisters)and the boy is a relative.
It is an incredible to see the siyata deshmaya in a shidduch coming to fruition.
You don’t have to overthink your idea. If you think you may have a possible shidduch idea, pick up the phone and call. People are usually so grateful that you thought of their child. This initiative should be a zechus for Yisrael and Elisheva’s neshamas.”
“First of all, Tizku L’mitzvos! Your movement is bringing about wonderful things.
“The shidduch that we redt is engaged! After reading about 10K Batay Yisroel we were inspired to think outside the box. It’s such an unbelievable zechut when HaShem gives you the opportunity to be able to fulfill any mitzvah but to make a shidduch is truly awe inspiring and B”H for this!”
“B’H they got engaged on Wednesday night! The girl is from Cleveland and the boy is from Monsey.
I know the feeling of waiting for a shidduch call, being that I have been in shidduchim for a few years. 10k Batay Yisroel made me realize that we are ALL IN THIS TOGETHER ! If I cannot redt myself a shidduch, why not redt someone else! It takes one phone call!”
“In the past I tried suggesting shidduchim but I got very burnt out and lost my confidence. But after reading Rabbi Levin’s article I decided that all I have to do is try and the results are not in my hands. Then the next day on Rosh Hashana I was sitting by the window and saw somebody that was in in shidduchim pass and an idea popped into my head. After Yom Tov I called and called and didn’t give up. And last week they got engaged BH!!! I just want to add that these people are not from my circles and after the shidduch came about everyone was shocked that this shidduch came about through someone that wasn’t part of their ‘circles’.
“I always tried to make shidduchim, but nothing came of it. When I heard about 10K Batay Yisrael, I tried even harder and spent more time. Then my friend made my shidduch and since then my husband and I have been trying to set her up. We thought of an idea, redt it, and now Baruch Hashem they are engaged!
“I had redt a few shidduchim at the beginning of the summer. Each couple went out once or twice & that was it.
“I heard about a shidduch being redt and I thought it was a great idea! I wasn’t sure it was going to go through, so I spoke to both the boy’s and girl’s side and pushed the idea. BH I knew both sides well so I was able to be of help. The couple just got engaged:)
“I do not know Rabbi and Mrs. Levin personally.
“It’s been 10 years since my first and only successful shidduch. After Pesach I was inspired to start trying again and they just got engaged!”
“I made my brother’s shidduch 10 years ago to my co-worker, and tried a few after that. After one couple went out a few times and it fell apart I stopped; I worried that maybe as an inexperienced shadchan I didn’t have the experience needed to facilitate shidduchim.
I know the Kaplan family and coming back from the levaya I knew I had to take action and change something in Yisroel Levin and Elisheva Kaplan’s memory. As a fashion blogger, I seized the opportunity to announce on my Insta story @styledbyfreidy that I will be taking resumes of anyone currently looking for a shidduch (I have a great network of girls it doesn’t hurt to reach out to them)! My only condition was that 1. I don’t do blind dates..you’re welcome 2. I get an answer within 3 days or else I move on to the next (I don’t want either party waiting on each other..it ain’t good manners)
One of my followers sent in her resume and pic and I thought of a guy who may be perfect for her but I wasn’t sure if he started dating. Rather, then wait the next two weeks to bring it up, that night I asked the mother if he started dating….she replied, he just started. Yassss, I was in. I sent her the girl’s resume and got an answer then ran to to the girl and got an answer within the week the date was set.
Within, two months they got engaged!
Before the tragedy, I would have thought I couldn’t make a difference and would have procrastinated. This time, I went all out and made the difference. You don’t have to be a shadchan to set people up.
You just have to CARE! Next time you have a good idea (don’t just set people up just because..it can lead to burn out which we don’t want) act on it, send the info, and be there when both parties need you for any other info…and if all is meant to be…you can too set up your first couple! Our destines lie in the hands of the unity of our people.
Everyone says it’s too personal to get involved when it comes to shidduchim. To them I say, get personal and be involved in more shidduchim. I did and I will never regret it. I never met the girl until I did at their L’chaim!
There is no other feeling like bringing two people together. I know because I just did and it’s an amazing feeling that I can’t put into words. I tear up thinking about it. My life,the boy’s life and the girl’s life is changed forever.”
June 10th 2018
“Elisheva Kaplan actually was my best friend, so I was excited to be a part of this. I’m not a shadchan just wanted to try to help out others. I redt a shidduch and they just got engaged! (I think they want to remain anonymous but I’ll find out!)”
June 10th 2018
“I had posted that I redt a shidduch and they got engaged last week BH! The boy and girl are both from Lakewood.
Shidduchim is my hobby 🙂 I try to fit it in between a full job and a house with children KNH. I think this project is amazing because everyone needs to be osek in some form. What a beautiful way to give the neshamos zechuyos and the families chizuk.”
June 10th 2018
Dear Rabbi Levin ,
I guess I’m considered an older bocher learning in a prominent Yeshiva and bH I just got engaged!! I just wanted to say that just this z’man from rosh chodesh Iyar till now the amount of friends and bochrim I know that recently got engaged, some a bit younger than me and some older all waiting quite a while, is boruch Hashem mind-boggling and it should iyH just continue. I was talking recently to another chosson who waited a while and he’s like this doesn’t make sense it’s crazy that so many guys that sat around are getting engaged now and yes we all davened and davened for each other but how so quick ?!! And then I recently saw your video/campaign for 10k shidduchim and remembered what you said by the levaya asking hashem for an afikomon of 10k shidduchim and I said we definitely have to thank you Rabbi Levin kol pruta upruta mitztarif, every davening, every brocha and every bakash so where credit is due I want to thank you again and wish you much hatzlocha with this initiative and iyH all of klal yisroel should find their true zivug bekarov and it should be an aliya for the neshmos of Yisrael and Elisheva.
July 3rd 2018
R. Yeshaya Shlita,
We were part of tens of thousands that were moved to tears hearing your most inspiring words and bakosho to the Boreu Olam. What contributed to this was obviously the fact that we were part of the matzav with a divorced daughter of 24 and the next of 22 and a half waiting [with others not far].
The week of Lag Boomer at one time both were dating and closed bshaah tova within a day of each other [We were instructed by Maran Hagrach Kaniefsky Shlita that there is no chashash of ayin harah in yerushalaim] we therefore made both official and the coming Monday is the first chassuna BH.
The actual shidduchim is a story on its own so many Nisim and many people were mechuzek from the moredika SD.
We all said that besides all the tefilot definitely your heart broken tefillo surely was also part of the great ness.
We can only wish you beshame
כל כלל ישראל עלה והצלח
ובתוך עבודת בקודש זה בודאי תזכו לנחמה אמיתית ולעילוי נשמה לילדיכם הקדושים והטהורים ע”ה.
June 11th 2018
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